The best part of having friends as a self-proclaimed writer is the inspiration that you draw from them. For instance a few of us gathered together one night for a while and had a chance to converse.....and enjoy a "beverage" or two. All having experienced similar yet different upbringings (although all of our parents know one another) and different experiences of love and life the conversation was easily steered. Being the individual I am, I tried to course the direction to my liking not realizing that conversations of men and women about our dynamics do not follow course but become a living being of its own. The conversation grew into an experience that would leave me mentally exhausted with a couple of my senses overloaded.
The conversation began talking about Steve Harvey's book, although it was a best seller, it does catch some flack for some of its ideas. (I have not read it so I cannot say good or bad) The conversation was initially easy to control for one question led to another with intelligent and viable opinions but it was when the conversation took a turn for the more sexual did I lose control ,becoming more of a spectator rather than participant, as this snowball began to roll. I say spectator because the dynamics of the people (four males and two females) shifted just enough for actions and responses to be noticed more overtly. Comments became more personal rather than open ended with a pseudo generalization and even more directed. Actions became more animated with just enough detail for a silhouetted mental visual and engaged attentiveness became stolen glances.
So did the dynamics between the men and women in this conversation change because of the conversation about the dynamics of men and women?!?! Of course it did and do you blame it, lets be honest you have two attractive sistahs and two well groomed single brothas that enjoy women in every way. SO what is this post about simply that no matter what anyone says there will always be an underlining reason for men and women be them black, white, puerto-rican, etc to talk about relationships, sex and love. Is this to say that women and men cannot discuss these topics without have an ulterior motive; who am I to say but from observation I will say its possible but not often likely because in the end we all want to impress someone with our intellect and thoughts, whether it is ourselves or others especially in the matters of of the heart...Hell why do you think I do it LOL.
